I'm in emotional and social trap. Whatever I want to do, I have to seek validation and permission from people around me. I could not be able to go with my instinct. What should I do?

Emotional people are a gift to society, they see or feel what others cannot even sense. They win hearts easily because of their caring attitude. But often taken for granted as In your case. What you allow will prevail, your concern itself is a sign of your awareness, you know that you are suffering, stop sharing your secrets with people around you and go as you like. Don't be the football of others' opinions. People play or mess with soft toys, not with electricity. You also have that current in you, just discover it.

I’m not interested in anything. I don’t like the job what I do. I feel very bad about myself. I’m not feeling anything to do. Thinking everything in a negative way, what can I do to be happy with the life?

This could be one of the reasons of your miseries, as I do not have other information, according to me you are expecting too much from life, expectations reduce joy, you may have set your self-esteem very high and not getting the kind of response you desire, if you feel it's true, then start feeling ordinary, actually, it would be the first step towards being extraordinary, nature is our best teacher, a flower never complains of depression, nor moon or the stars for their being, nor any animal for their size or looks, only humans get depressed, find out why, what's the secret, you will at least love this job. You are in pain now and believe me, it's your stage of blooming.

How do I feel good?

I would request you to go out and watch those slum children playing on the streets or dancing in the rain, have a close look at their faces and their smile, it's so pure and heavenly, perhaps you will discover that happiness or feeling better as you said comes from inside, it is not outside. No outside force or event can make you happy if you are upset within, You simply cannot draw on the water surface, can you?

Why can't I keep my own secrets? I have such intense urges to reveal them for a cheap thrill and I can't seem to stop. Is this a common thing?

Yes, it is common with many people, and according to me, it is a sign of total goodness and innocence to some extent. It might also be a result of seeking praise and attention. But Chanakya, a well known ancient royal advisor, and economist said “ Do not share your secrets, it will destroy you”

What do you do when you think your adopted and your parents won't tell you if you are or not?

Be grateful to them, or worship them if possible. Please do not react in Bollywood style by blaming almighty.

I don't want to feel anything anymore. How do I do that?

The statement itself is a sign of maturity, accept it. Somewhere and somehow you have understood that there is no point in being extremely happy or being extremely sad because none of them is everlasting, it is understood that the whole tornado that whirls within is a temporary psychological drama, the outburst of rotten energy and nothing else. People like yourself are very sensitive and emotional, they know the difference between liking a flower and loving a flower, emotions are your strength,so don't get disheartened, very shortly you by default! will learn to filter these feeling of yours and only good and positive ones would stay. It would be sometimes somethings and not anything anymore. Cheer up.

My friends are becoming a burden. I’m stressed because I end up getting treated like I'm bad. I am tired of caring about everyone's feelings. How do I deal with this stress so that I can care less about them and be self-centered without hurting them?

As a giver you fall into the bracket of being taken for granted, people are actually not used to that extra caring which you are offering them for free and without asking I suppose. Your friends are judging you wrongly it's not your fault; change the set if possible? learn to take your stand, don't be too available, learn to say no upfront if you mean it. Get into a new group because your image here will stay for a while. Just move.

Can you personify an emotion of your choice?

Yes off course, in fact, a proper personification would reveal the depth of your feeling in the manner you want it to be.

How can I show a person that I am guilty?

Willing to show might take a lot of time along with confusion and the damage in the interim may boost. Why don't you admit it straight on the face, it would be a mark of courage and send positive signals both ways. If you are actually feeling it? Face it upfront, at least you will have no regrets in future.

What are some examples of outside behaviour that are symptoms of inner emotional scars?

That's interesting? Well, the best example would be sexually deprived people, they become sorehead with time, full of fretfulness, always irritated and ugly, nature wise.

What do heroic people do when they are hopeless and feeling very bad?

Any kind of feeling! either good or bad is pretty temporary in nature and will not last for long. Real heroes as you said to have definitely something special in them which made them the hero. It takes a lot of pain and consistency in achieving the benchmark. The Journey to heroism teaches them the importance of patience. So at bad times, they know that it will not last! they are positive, energetic and do not quit while patiently waiting for the good times to come. “Tough time does not last but tough people do.”

What is the difference between Thought, Feeling and Emotion?

The thought is an ongoing phenomenon that keeps on circling within what we know if we analyze we would discover that we have never thought of something that we don't know, it's not possible. The feeling is the byproduct of thought, you cannot have fragrance without the flowers and lastly, emotions are a byproduct of our feelings. It's a rally or sequence of human behavior and that's why they say that if you can control your thinking you can control everything.

I want to keep relations with those who don't want it and avoid those who want it, how can I mend my mind to live happy and balanced? Is it a psychological problem? Is it a greedy approach?

When you are unnecessarily willing to come closer and If people who don't want to be with you can identify your intentions, then it would add to the misery. But actually, there is no reason why you should be avoided, a flower is always a flower, it's the same for everybody, so just be yourself and behave indifferently to both categories. Do not chase the sunlight, walk with it, the shadow will start following you. You have potential and that is why some of them are loving you. Just be yourself. Stop chasing.

How does it feel when someone closer to you hurt you?

When someone is hurting you, it's you who is giving them the way. It would be something that you had not expected from the closer one you are mentioning, never in this life! Right? But unfortunately, it's the core of human behavior and pretty much unavoidable, start expecting the unexpected, nature all around will be same forever except human nature? revealing of intentions and unfolding of human faces around you in good, bad or horrible will be the way to maturity.

What is the purpose of guilt? Why do we feel guilt?

Some of our actions are spontaneous and abrupt! The undo button doesn't exist but our feelings are temporary in nature and keep on changing along with the situations like the changing seasons, what is a must in December becomes unbearable in may. Some outburst or exaggerated actions transforms in repentance and guilt of lifetime.

Why is it comforting to know that I am not the only one who is feeling this way?

It gives you a sense of belonging, this aspect is as natural as breathing. Just think that wherever we go, we introduce ourselves to others by our name, religion, and field of interest, etc etc.and be with the group with which we can relate to the optimum level. Its human psychology.

Why do people play with the feelings of others? Do they not have the heart?

When someone is hurting you, it's you who is giving them the way. It would be something that you had not expected from the closer one you are mentioning, never in this life! Right? But unfortunately, it's the core of human behavior and pretty much unavoidable, start expecting the unexpected, look eating of a rat by a snake is normal for the snake but not for the rat, his life ends. All will not be like you or the way you want them to be, nature all around will be the same forever except human nature? revealing of intentions and unfolding of human faces around you in good, bad or horrible will be the way to maturity.

When you don't know why you are upset?

Something somehow is not working the way we want it to be, it is the lack of fulfillment, something deep down is empty, it may be your subconscious brain also but its there, either it's materialistic or non-materialistic. To overcome this do not sit ideal, engage in something you like or love yo do. Be aware that you will not allow it any further.

Why do we get jealous? Is it good? How do we stop being jealous?

Jealousy is living in comparison, you are in the middle of the ladder which is endless when you see downwards, you feel proud and when you see upwards you feel bad or jealous. There is no end to it both ways. Try and jump out of the ladder and just be yourself, it's not as easy as being said but slowly you need to try on a daily basis.

Can you tell me why people hurt others in the name of jealousy and why people feel the emotion jealousy?

Jealousy is living in comparison, you are in the middle of the ladder which is endless when you see downwards, you feel proud and when you see upwards you feel bad or jealous. There is no end to it both ways. Try and jump out of the ladder and just be yourself, it's not as easy as being said but slowly you need to try on a daily basis.