I'm in emotional and social trap. Whatever I want to do, I have to seek validation and permission from people around me. I could not be able to go with my instinct. What should I do?

Emotional people are a gift to society, they see or feel what others cannot even sense. They win hearts easily because of their caring attitude. But often taken for granted as In your case. What you allow will prevail, your concern itself is a sign of your awareness, you know that you are suffering, stop sharing your secrets with people around you and go as you like. Don't be the football of others' opinions. People play or mess with soft toys, not with electricity. You also have that current in you, just discover it.

I want to die, but I don't want my parents to feel bad for me. What should I do?

You are just willing to die but not dead yet, this itself is a positive sign, there is a lot of life and love left in you, until and unless you are clinically depressed? Which doesn't seem to be, a dip into the reality may help, your death would not make any difference to the cause that is generating the urge to die, nor any difference to the society or your near and dear ones except your parents, they will also eventually accept it in agony, what are you trying to prove by committing suicide? Daily lacs and lacs of people are already dying, you will be plus one, what's the big deal, take three months for yourself and Rome around taking note of misery and pain that people around you are going through, talk to them, see people without eyes, without limbs, without parents, without children, without food, go to hospitals and hear what the patient parties are praying for, ask a lady who has ditched in love and got sold by her own husband, wake up buddy, wake up.

Will you still say that u have something missing in life? and you want to die because you are unhappy.

Have a great Life ahead buddy.

I’m not interested in anything. I don’t like the job what I do. I feel very bad about myself. I’m not feeling anything to do. Thinking everything in a negative way, what can I do to be happy with the life?

This could be one of the reasons of your miseries, as I do not have other information, according to me you are expecting too much from life, expectations reduce joy, you may have set your self-esteem very high and not getting the kind of response you desire, if you feel it's true, then start feeling ordinary, actually, it would be the first step towards being extraordinary, nature is our best teacher, a flower never complains of depression, nor moon or the stars for their being, nor any animal for their size or looks, only humans get depressed, find out why, what's the secret, you will at least love this job. You are in pain now and believe me, it's your stage of blooming.

I've convinced myself that I'm a bad student and I can't do anything right, which has led to my self-esteem being very low. What can I do?

Unfortunately, this unique quality of low esteem exist in human only, God or whoever you think had created this universe has not put this function of low esteem by default in any of his creation, a small tree doesn't feel inferior against huge trees, a small cat doesn't think it's small, the river flows at its own without comparing itself with oceans, everything has it's own harmony and is unique. You too must be having a unique quality other than studies which would be beyond the success of studies, the comparison is the cause estimation, stop comparing, you will Excel.

I am 16 now and live in Kolkata, I want to play for the Indian Cricket Team. What should I do?

I have represented Bengal- U19 and University blue during my age, as a basic process, join some coaching center, if you have talent, they will show you the way, two to three years earlier would have been better if you are seriously looking at it. But without actual talent and real hard work, do not even think about it. It would be like making a way through mountains.

How do I hide my feelings towards depression? Everybody should think that I'm happy.

Thinking What others are thinking is actually a waste, complete waste. Somehow, deep down! Society will always have a problem if you are sad or happy. Both ways they will discuss. Great mind discusses ideas and innovation, mediocre minds discuss events and small minds discuss people. Why are you bothered?

Why am I so dissatisfied with my life? Why do I feel as though I am meant to be doing something bigger and better?

Frustration and stress are two different phenomena of humanity, stress is having less capacity and more demand while frustration is totally opposite. Many of you are having a higher desire and sense of accomplishment but are served way below need, Have patience and keep hunting for bigger and bigger opportunities.

Why do many people feel lonely? Is it just in England or in many countries around the world?

It is all over the world I guess? everything goes in harmony, night and day, good and bad, true and false, each phenomenon is contradicting the other, any one of these will have no meaning in the absence of the other one. The same concept of give and take applies to human where the giving part is very less or nil but demand is too high, people are expecting more but not willing to offer, either it's love or support or time, most precious of all is time, we cannot even praise others freely and wholeheartedly. In times of growth, we ignore everyone and everything, and at times of decline, we get ignored.

How do I feel good?

I would request you to go out and watch those slum children playing on the streets or dancing in the rain, have a close look at their faces and their smile, it's so pure and heavenly, perhaps you will discover that happiness or feeling better as you said comes from inside, it is not outside. No outside force or event can make you happy if you are upset within, You simply cannot draw on the water surface, can you?

What are the ways to know if a person has genuine feelings for someone or they are faking it for some reason?

Faking is trying, it would need effort, you need to differentiate between the two, either is effortless or with effort, caring in tiniest of things would count.

I’m starting to feel unhappy with someone I love very much. He hasn’t done anything wrong, but I guess I just don’t feel it as much anymore. What should I do?

Perhaps, he doesn't have the qualities that you thought he had, or not up to the mark, or you deserve better, may what goes, but finally, you are over him, he has lost it, accept it.

How do I remove laziness while studying?

By foreseeing the Future exactly what you want it to be like, How much confident you want to look in the society. Higher self-esteem, lesser the intention of neglecting studies.

How do I report my situation to a cop if I feel threatened by a person with the fact that the person may not threaten me tomorrow but someday in the future?

The idea itself is vague? The word “may “ is infinite and has no existence in reality. It's only for fear and self-created.

What do you like to do when you are feeling low?

All psychological issues are actually biological, try praising people who are worth the praise according to you, around you from within and wholeheartedly. Just praise them. The more You praise, the better it be, will feel the difference. It would not be possible to explain it here but try and see.

How can I help my dad in his business?

Very simple, start by sharing his responsibilities, low key ones like banking, mailing, filing, delivering, etc! it will depend on the volume of your dad's business but the process would be the same.

How do I stop feeling worthless, because I am short?

Great things come in small packages, you must have heard this, what extra would you have achieved with that extra height which is currently impossible? I hope nothing. The botheration is what people would say? Which anyways is unavoidable until you are average, as the rest of them are, average looks, average knowledge, average height, average thinking, average income, average talent, etc. Do you still want to be ONE of them?

Why can't I keep my own secrets? I have such intense urges to reveal them for a cheap thrill and I can't seem to stop. Is this a common thing?

Yes, it is common with many people, and according to me, it is a sign of total goodness and innocence to some extent. It might also be a result of seeking praise and attention. But Chanakya, a well known ancient royal advisor, and economist said “ Do not share your secrets, it will destroy you”

What do you do when you think your adopted and your parents won't tell you if you are or not?

Be grateful to them, or worship them if possible. Please do not react in Bollywood style by blaming almighty.

Should I go to a psychiatrist for low confidence for one year?

I remember a story where a king drew a small line and challenged his most intelligent ministerial to shorten the line without even rubbing it or even disturbing it in any way, everybody thought it was just impossible but his ministerial did draw a bigger line above it, and made the first line shorter, hope it is clear now, stop comparing yourself, everyone is unique, you too are unique.

How can I overcome this feeling of insecurity when I'm in love?

Why and from where this insecurity is arising? It is not natural in true love. Analyze deeply. And if actually, it is arising than it will show on your face and behavior which would affect your partner negatively.

What should I do to increase my confidence drastically considering my confidence level at 2 out of 10-point scale? If I have a year to do so, can you provide me a detailed recipe?

There is no better way to learn swimming than to jump in the water, start doing things that you are afraid of, lack of confidence is lack of courage, try your courage out, it is just the fear that has taken over you. Fear is 99 times imagination only, you think that it is low confidence but thinking changes with time, every action has got an equal and opposite reaction, give it a chance, just act.

I don't want to feel anything anymore. How do I do that?

The statement itself is a sign of maturity, accept it. Somewhere and somehow you have understood that there is no point in being extremely happy or being extremely sad because none of them is everlasting, it is understood that the whole tornado that whirls within is a temporary psychological drama, the outburst of rotten energy and nothing else. People like yourself are very sensitive and emotional, they know the difference between liking a flower and loving a flower, emotions are your strength,so don't get disheartened, very shortly you by default! will learn to filter these feeling of yours and only good and positive ones would stay. It would be sometimes somethings and not anything anymore. Cheer up.

My friends are becoming a burden. I’m stressed because I end up getting treated like I'm bad. I am tired of caring about everyone's feelings. How do I deal with this stress so that I can care less about them and be self-centered without hurting them?

As a giver you fall into the bracket of being taken for granted, people are actually not used to that extra caring which you are offering them for free and without asking I suppose. Your friends are judging you wrongly it's not your fault; change the set if possible? learn to take your stand, don't be too available, learn to say no upfront if you mean it. Get into a new group because your image here will stay for a while. Just move.