Wednesday, May 6, 2020

I'm in emotional and social trap. Whatever I want to do, I have to seek validation and permission from people around me. I could not be able to go with my instinct. What should I do?

Emotional people are a gift to society, they see or feel what others cannot even sense. They win hearts easily because of their caring attitude. But often taken for granted as In your case. What you allow will prevail, your concern itself is a sign of your awareness, you know that you are suffering, stop sharing your secrets with people around you and go as you like. Don't be the football of others' opinions. People play or mess with soft toys, not with electricity. You also have that current in you, just discover it.
healing of broken heart

I want to die, but I don't want my parents to feel bad for me. What should I do?

You are just willing to die but not dead yet, this itself is a positive sign, there is a lot of life and love left in you, until and unless you are clinically depressed? Which doesn't seem to be, a dip into the reality may help, your death would not make any difference to the cause that is generating the urge to die, nor any difference to the society or your near and dear ones except your parents, they will also eventually accept it in agony, what are you trying to prove by committing suicide? Daily lacs and lacs of people are already dying, you will be plus one, what's the big deal, take three months for yourself and Rome around taking note of misery and pain that people around you are going through, talk to them, see people without eyes, without limbs, without parents, without children, without food, go to hospitals and hear what the patient parties are praying for, ask a lady who has ditched in love and got sold by her own husband, wake up buddy, wake up.
poverty and survival
Will you still say that u have something missing in life? and you want to die because you are unhappy.
Have a great Life ahead buddy.

I’m not interested in anything. I don’t like the job what I do. I feel very bad about myself. I’m not feeling anything to do. Thinking everything in a negative way, what can I do to be happy with the life?

unhappy depressed people
This could be one of the reasons of your miseries, as I do not have other information, according to me you are expecting too much from life, expectations reduce joy, you may have set your self-esteem very high and not getting the kind of response you desire, if you feel it's true, then start feeling ordinary, actually, it would be the first step towards being extraordinary, nature is our best teacher, a flower never complains of depression, nor moon or the stars for their being, nor any animal for their size or looks, only humans get depressed, find out why, what's the secret, you will at least love this job. You are in pain now and believe me, it's your stage of blooming.

I've convinced myself that I'm a bad student and I can't do anything right, which has led to my self-esteem being very low. What can I do?

Unfortunately, this unique quality of low esteem exist in human only, God or whoever you think had created this universe has not put this function of low esteem by default in any of his creation, a small tree doesn't feel inferior against huge trees, a small cat doesn't think it's small, the river flows at its own without comparing itself with oceans, everything has it's own harmony and is unique. You too must be having a unique quality other than studies which would be beyond the success of studies, the comparison is the cause estimation, stop comparing, you will Excel.

I am 16 now and live in Kolkata, I want to play for the Indian Cricket Team. What should I do?

I have represented Bengal- U19 and University blue during my age, as a basic process, join some coaching center, if you have talent, they will show you the way, two to three years earlier would have been better if you are seriously looking at it. But without actual talent and real hard work, do not even think about it. It would be like making a way through mountains.

How do I hide my feelings towards depression? Everybody should think that I'm happy.

Thinking What others are thinking is actually a waste, complete waste. Somehow, deep down! Society will always have a problem if you are sad or happy. Both ways they will discuss. Great mind discusses ideas and innovation, mediocre minds discuss events and small minds discuss people. Why are you bothered?

Why am I so dissatisfied with my life? Why do I feel as though I am meant to be doing something bigger and better?

Frustration and stress are two different phenomena of humanity, stress is having less capacity and more demand while frustration is totally opposite. Many of you are having a higher desire and sense of accomplishment but are served way below need, Have patience and keep hunting for bigger and bigger opportunities.

I'm in emotional and social trap. Whatever I want to do, I have to seek validation and permission from people around me. I could not be able to go with my instinct. What should I do?

Emotional people are a gift to society, they see or feel what others cannot even sense. They win hearts easily because of their caring att...